{"id":62549,"date":"2024-06-28T00:28:05","date_gmt":"2024-06-27T21:28:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bilimvegelecek.com.tr\/?p=62549"},"modified":"2024-07-02T15:32:59","modified_gmt":"2024-07-02T12:32:59","slug":"dostun-olumu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bilimvegelecek.com.tr\/index.php\/2024\/06\/28\/dostun-olumu","title":{"rendered":"Dostun \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ender Helvac\u0131o\u011flu<\/strong><\/p>\n

G\u00fcnl\u00fck hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n bir par\u00e7as\u0131 olmu\u015f ki\u015filerin (e\u015fin, anne-baban\u0131n, karde\u015fin, hele \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n) \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc \u015fok edicidir ve y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r. Ani ve derin bir ac\u0131 verir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc onlar\u0131n kayb\u0131 ya\u015fam\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 radikal bi\u00e7imde de\u011fi\u015ftirir; b\u00fcy\u00fck bir bo\u015fluk yarat\u0131r. Bencillik midir bilemem ama, b\u00f6yle bir yak\u0131n\u0131m\u0131z \u00f6ld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde, bilincinde olmasak da, esas olarak kendimiz i\u00e7in \u00fcz\u00fcl\u00fcr\u00fcz. \u201cBen onsuz nas\u0131l ya\u015far\u0131m?\u201d diye d\u00f6v\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcz.<\/p>\n

Dostun \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc ise farkl\u0131d\u0131r. Dost, g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n o denli bir par\u00e7as\u0131 de\u011fildir. Dost \u00f6l\u00fcr, \u00fcz\u00fcl\u00fcr\u00fcz, ama g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015fam\u0131m\u0131z eskisi gibi devam eder. Dostun \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc, ya\u015fam\u0131m\u0131zda ani ve \u015fok edici bir bo\u015fluk yaratmaz.<\/p>\n

Dostun \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcn\u00fcn yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 bo\u015fluk zamanla anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131r. Yava\u015f yava\u015f kendini hissettirir. Ya\u015fad\u0131k\u00e7a, onsuz nas\u0131l da eksildi\u011fimizin bilincine var\u0131r\u0131z. Yani dostun \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcn\u00fcn yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 bo\u015flu\u011fun \u201cbilincine\u201d var\u0131l\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Dost an\u0131msan\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc unutulmu\u015ftur. Olmad\u0131k bir anda, belki de en ne\u015feli bir an\u0131m\u0131zda akl\u0131m\u0131za d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcverir, kendini hissettirir. \u00d6lm\u00fc\u015f dostun an\u0131msanmas\u0131 ac\u0131 vermez; h\u00fcz\u00fcn veya s\u0131z\u0131 diye tan\u0131mlamak daha do\u011fru belki. Hatta bir ne\u015fe kayna\u011f\u0131 da olabilir. En g\u00fczeli de bu; \u00f6l\u00fcmden sonra ne\u015fe kayna\u011f\u0131 olabilmek.<\/p>\n

Dost \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc bir boyut kayb\u0131d\u0131r. An kayb\u0131 de\u011fildir, s\u00fcre\u00e7 kayb\u0131d\u0131r. Hemen fark edilmez. Ya\u015f ilerlemi\u015fse, b\u00f6yle kay\u0131plar\u0131n yerini ikame etmek zorla\u015f\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc dostluk yo\u011fun emek vermeyi ve kritik s\u0131navlardan ge\u00e7meyi gerektirir. Yeni dost edinmek kolay de\u011fil. Ya\u015f\u0131n\u0131z ilerledik\u00e7e tan\u0131d\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131z ve arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z (yeni tan\u0131mla: takip\u00e7ileriniz) \u00e7o\u011fal\u0131r, ama dostlar\u0131n\u0131z azal\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u0130nsan dostlar\u0131n\u0131 kaybede kaybede \u00f6l\u00fcyor. Boyutlar\u0131n\u0131z azal\u0131yor, azal\u0131yor; giderek siz de \u00f6l\u00fcyorsunuz, ya\u015fayan \u00f6l\u00fcye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyorsunuz. Dostsuzluk ne ac\u0131\u2026<\/p>\n

Kaybedecek dostunuz kalmad\u0131ysa e\u011fer, zaten ya\u015faman\u0131z da bir fazlal\u0131kt\u0131r. \u0130nsan dostlar\u0131n\u0131 (\u00f6zellikle ya\u015f\u00e7a kendisinden k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckleri) kaybetmeden \u00f6lmeyi bilmeli.<\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

Nurettin Abac\u0131o\u011flu b\u00f6yle \u00f6ld\u00fc. Onunla en son ortak bir dostun cenazesinde (Metin \u00c7ulhao\u011flu) g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015f, sohbet etmi\u015ftik. Sonras\u0131nda birka\u00e7 kez telefonda konu\u015ftuk. Bilim ve Gelecek i\u00e7in yaz\u0131 istemi\u015ftim, yazamam\u0131\u015ft\u0131.<\/p>\n

Ah, ke\u015fke gen\u00e7 olsayd\u0131m. Dost \u00f6l\u00fcmleri bu kadar koymasayd\u0131 bana\u2026<\/p>\n

Ho\u015f\u00e7a kal Nurettin Abi. Ne diyeyim, eksilttin bizi.<\/p>\n

Dostlar sa\u011f olsun\u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Ender Helvac\u0131o\u011flu G\u00fcnl\u00fck hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n bir par\u00e7as\u0131 olmu\u015f ki\u015filerin (e\u015fin, anne-baban\u0131n, karde\u015fin, hele \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n) \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc \u015fok edicidir ve y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r. Ani ve derin bir ac\u0131 verir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc onlar\u0131n kayb\u0131 ya\u015fam\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 radikal bi\u00e7imde de\u011fi\u015ftirir; b\u00fcy\u00fck bir bo\u015fluk yarat\u0131r. Bencillik midir bilemem ama, b\u00f6yle bir yak\u0131n\u0131m\u0131z \u00f6ld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde, bilincinde olmasak da, esas olarak kendimiz i\u00e7in \u00fcz\u00fcl\u00fcr\u00fcz. \u201cBen onsuz nas\u0131l ya\u015far\u0131m?\u201d […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":493,"featured_media":62550,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[19,2313],"tags":[9782,5247,9783],"class_list":["post-62549","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-bilim-gundemi","category-degirmen","tag-dostun-olumu","tag-ender-helvacioglu","tag-nurettin-abacioglu"],"acf":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t